When something goes wrong, we naturally start looking for a person to blame – and that person is often ourselves. But feeling guilty won’t help the situation. Remember that the world is complex, and often a whole series of events contributed to what went wrong, says psychotherapist Fran Walfish. Don’t bear (or assign) all the blame for the outcome, but accept that bad things happen, no matter how hard you try.
Sometimes things are beyond your control. You are just one person, and you weren’t meant to bear the world’s problems. Just do your best and be who you are, and realise that it isn’t your responsibility to fix every problem in society.