10 ways to stop feeling guilty all the time

Looking out for yourself isn’t selfish – it’s healthy. Sometimes we feel guilty for taking care of ourselves, but not only is self-care important it will also help you be a better caretaker to others, says Walfish. Remember the oxygen mask analogy? You can’t help others if you can’t breathe first.

One way to be more forgiving of yourself is to see your mistakes from someone else’s perspective, Jackson says. Pretend that your friend is facing a similar issue – would you want that person to internalise those feelings? The truth is you’re probably being harder on yourself than anyone would expect or want, so give yourself the same benefit of the doubt that you’d allow anyone else, she says.